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Stoney Asks, "Why are men so completely lost in the sight of a beautiful female
body?”
Jazzbell responds, "Probably for several reasons.”
“Like what?”
“Well, for starters,” she replies with a sigh, “Our culture distorts and
dishonors our sexual nature.
For example, in American society, its perfectly okay to use female bodies in
bait-and-switch advertising to sell men almost anything you can imagine — except
sexual fulfillment.”
“What else?”
“The
sight of naked women has been denied to most men for most of their lives.
When was the last time you looked at a woman as you are looking at me
right now?”
“I
never have. I’ve seen naked women before but never the way we are
here today.”
“And
after you have seen a couple dozen beautiful women as openly and as freely as
you are looking at me now, the female body will take on a new meaning.
It will still be a joy-filled experience under circumstances like we are
sharing today, but much of the mystery and the mystique will be gone.”
“I like the mystique.
It’s exciting. It
makes me feel good.”
“Of
course! That’s a very delightful part of interrelating,
particularly in the first stages of the sexual game.
Can you also see that it’s the internal feelings of joy and pleasure that
we’re after and not the external trappings or the naked bodies that inspire
those feelings.”
“So
you’re saying that by sharing your body with me, you’re inspiring me to feel
good?”
“Was
that a question or a statement?”
“Both, I guess.”
“Then pose it as a question and answer it yourself.”
“I
think I’m missing something.”
“OK.
What are you after? My body
or the feelings you feel inside yourself as a result of playing sensual/sexual
games with me?”
“Both, I guess.”
“Let’s approach this from a different angle.
Sit up here beside me.
We need to temporarily break the sexual cycle anyway, and this will be a perfect
way to do so.” I sit on the
couch and Jazzbell continues.
“Do
you need a job?”
“I
like to eat and have a bed to sleep in.”
“I
didn’t ask about food or your bed.
I asked you if you need to have a job.
If I gave you ten million dollars, would you need a job?”
“No,
of course not.”
“So
a job is not a goal. A job is
a way to get money, and money is a means to a desired end.”
“I
get that.”
“Good. Now, we’re on the
right track. If you had a
perfect home for yourself — for example, suppose you owned a home like this one,
and you had completely free and total access to go anywhere and do anything and
have anything you could ever want, would you still need money?”
“No.”
“So
money‘s not the goal either
Your desire is for the goods and services, and money is a means to access those
goods and services.”
“Right.”
“And
what do you get from those goods and services?
For example, what do you get from your bed?”
“Satisfaction, comfort, peace of mind, security, pleasure.”
“Are
those external things, or are they feelings and states of being?”
“They’re all feelings and states of being.”
“Good! You got it.
The ultimate goal of all human beings is to generate internally the state
of being we call ‘feeling good.’
Unfortunately, we tend to confuse the external means with the internal
goal. We get lost in the physical world and lose our inner selves
in the process.”
“Yes, I suppose I do that.
Doesn’t everyone?”
“Jazzbell looks and me and smiles.
“Stoney, if everyone tied one hand behind his back, would you do the
same? What we're talking
about is bringing consciousness into your life so that you can live by intention
and not by accident or default. I’m inviting you to stop living your life as a robot,
to stop being a mechanical man.
I'm inviting you to wake up and become aware of how life works and what's
really going on, to become aware that it’s pleasurable, internal feelings you're
after, not the external trappings.
For example, why are you playing with my body?”
“Jazz. that's obvious! Because I enjoy it.
You’re an incredibly beautiful woman and touching you makes me feel
good.”
“And
where is the ‘feel good’?”
“In
me.”
“Do
you see that I’m not the source of your feeling good?
You are the source of your
feeling good. I am an
external inspiration out of which you create, within yourself, your own internal
feelings of pleasure.”
“True, but I never thought of it that way before.”
Jazzbell continues, “Can you now
see that your intention to manifest what we’re presently sharing comes from a
desire to feel good and not from a desire for the external thing itself.
Feeling good is the goal, and our sexual sharing is a means to that end“
“Yes, I see that.”
“Yet
some people would find what we are sharing here today to be disgusting and
revolting. For them, the same external circumstances that are
creating joy for us would create a totally different internal response for
them.”
“Yes, but what has all this to do with our sexual sharing?”
“It’s at the feeling level that we contact our true nature, and without using
destructive, mid-altering drugs, orgasm is the ultimate ‘feel-good’ for any
human being. Believe it or
not, orgasm is as close as most humans ever get to experiencing who they really
are. As sexual partners, we
help each other open up and connect with the ecstasy of God.”
“So
you really mean it when you say that sex is a spiritual experience?”
“It
certainly is for me. “
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